One Dog's Life
Rescued on a bright May day by way of Saving Grace Animal Rescue, Scout “rescued” her owners from grieving over their beloved Little Ronald Reagan, who had recently died of kidney cancer. By her third night in her new home, she was sleeping on the bed between her humans, the only dog in their 43-year marriage to wiggle her way under the covers. Within weeks, she had curled herself up on every bed, chair and sofa in the house, her favorite spot being on somebody’s lap already sitting there.
Fiesty, funny, fearless Scout
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Jean Louise Finch “Scout” Rountree
May ?? 2016-Sept. 8, 2024
Jean Louise Finch “Scout” Rountree, the Rountree’s feisty canine companion of eight years, died on Sept. 8 at the NCSU Veterinary Hospital from complications of an unexplained spinal cord injury. She was eight years and something.
Rescued on a bright May day by way of Saving Grace Animal Rescue, Scout “rescued” her owners from grieving over their beloved Little Ronald Reagan, who had recently died of kidney cancer. By her third night in her new home, she was sleeping on the bed between her humans, the only dog in their 43-year marriage to wiggle her way under the covers. Within weeks, she had curled herself up on every bed, chair and sofa in the house, her favorite spot being on somebody’s lap already sitting there.
Scout, fond of kissing everyone within reach of her tongue, wooed the doctors, nurses and students at the vet school with her frequent tongue action and her stoic demeanor amid what all said must have been great pain. And this formidable furlady knew pain, from her first months, we think, as she was rescued from the back roads of eastern North Carolina, having been on the run from somewhere in the months leading up to her establishment in Vestavia Woods. Feisty by nature (likely from her hardscrabble roots) she was kicked out of one doggie day care for too many infractions. Two years ago, a bigger dog grabbed hold of her neck and shook her like a rag dog, likely because she was talking junk.
A nurturer at heart, whenever we’d give her a rawhide-free dog bone, she’d run into the yard and quickly bury it, only to return to the back door with her nostrils full of dirt and the bone secured in her teeth. We’ve found bones folded up in the remains of her favorite stuffed animals—which she always chewed to shreds— in planted pots on the deck and even tucked into a sleeping bag rolled up and stored in an attic cubby. She loved French fries, the remains of any sandwich and chasing shadows dancing across the pavement. She adored (most) of her friends “on the track” — Cane and Stella and Izzy and Harley and Rocky and her beloved Sook, who greeted her in heaven. And quiet mornings napping in every sunlit space she could find. Summer tomatoes might have been her favorite food, and somehow she knew when Sooze made the first slice on the chopping board, appearing by Sooze’s side without making a sound. (And Sooze would give her the heel, a piece she never shared with anyone until Scout came along.) So of course, we served tomatoes as part of her last meal on this earth.
Named for Sooze’s favorite literary character, she lived up to her namesake in her spunky nature, and in the fact that whenever she walked, she was first and foremost a scout, her ears shifting like a satellite dish in search of a signal, and her nose searching out if her arch rival Lucy was anywhere near her on the track.
But most of all, Scout loved her people, showering them with her kisses, nudging closely to them at any chance, and taking their warm spot under the covers if they got up to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night.
In addition to Rick & Sooze, she’s survived by Grace & Harold, Sookie’s human family, who loved her despite her many shortcomings; her away-from-home family, Ann & John, who adored her from the first moments she boarded with them eight years ago. And the folks at Armadale Farm Kennel Daycare, who quickly taught her that screaming in public places is not allowed. She was predeceased two months ago by her beloved cousin Mudd and three weeks ago by her human grandmother B. We asked her to seek B out upon her arrival in heaven, and we know she is sitting on B’s lap, licking ... forever licking.
We thank the doctors at the NC State Emergency Veterinary Hospital, who came to admire Scout’s stoicism and kisses in her short time with them.
Scout was our fourth dog and our most challenging. But we wouldn’t not have a dog because one day we will lose them. And she taught us overwhelmingly how to love, no matter what.
Charmed
Sixty three. That’s how old I am today.
A year ago, I wasn’t sure the shape I’d be in when I got here. I look at a picture of myself holding my newborn granddaughter, Audie, and though I’m not as bald as I would become, I’m getting there. And there is weariness in my eyes. That 62-year-old’s eyes, well, you can barely see them — eyelashes gone, the light of them, even in the presence of dear Audie, shows hardly a twinkle.
Maybe it’s because I’d spent much of that day crying. My sister and sister-in-law had sent me a gift, and when I opened it, I found what feels now like a hundred charms threaded on a silver chain, charms sent to them from friends and family from all points in my life. Well, if you’ve read much that I’ve written, you know that I’m all about charms. I have two full charm bracelets and now the necklace, and when I first pulled it out of the box I was fairly certain my sister was thinking I was dying. And she wanted me to know how much people around me cared about me.
Certainly there were days in those first few months of treatment that I thought I might. And some of the tears easily fell from remembering those dark days. But I laughed, too, through that puddle, knowing maybe even then that this thing would not kill me. At least not yet.
The necklace weighs several heavy ounces. It’s filled with pieces of my life, like charms of buttered toast and an Outlander book, a hot pink dress and a yellow submarine, typewriters and clouds, a crown and a tea cup, a pencil (and its sharpener, dogs and the Empire State Building, sand dollars and a hamburger, an artichoke and a bird, Bible, crown and peony — (just to name a few) and every single one of them comes with a story all its own.
I wore that necklace every single time I had chemo until it was over, except it wasn’t. On those days last summer and fall, I felt as if I was taking with me a full scale of armor to fight this thing — with the help of all those who had charmed me. And in the hours when I sat in the chair, I fingered each gift, remembering the people and the stories.
Two pieces of buttered toast. Malone and I sat at her kitchen table as pre-teens and teens, eating buttered toast after school and talking about boys. (Today Malone is home after almost a week in the hospital fighting COVID-19. She’ll be fine, but her challenge, this time, has been more than a couple of pieces of toast can cure.) Yellow submarine. My brother — Beatlemainiac that he is — sat close to the stage at last year’s Paul McCartney concert in Raleigh on his own birthday.) Clouds. My niece, whose 2-year-old question: Do Clouds Sleep? still has me pondering. Peony: my mother. It’s the only thing she ever gave me that I seem to be able to grow.
The crown looks like the one that sat on Queen Elizabeth’s head during her coronation, the charm’s original owner the mother of my dear ABSU, who bought it when the two of us saw the crown jewels as seniors in high school. The dog from my college suite mate turned neighbor, Grace, as a reminder of all the dogs we’ve walked together and loved in almost 30 years of neighboring. The cardinal: my sister’s reminder that our father is never far away.
I could, as they say, go on.
There would be no writing about it last year. Most days when I looked at the necklace I cried just thinking about all the people represented in it. I cried for the reason behind the necklace and for the fact of it. I cried because the sheer weight of it felt a lot like the weight I was carrying.
I’m embarrassed now to say that when I learned I’d have to continue treatments for another year, I put the necklace away. I can’t say why, really, but anger at the state of things likely had something to do with it.
Today I’m feeling better. I have hair again, though it looks as though it belongs to someone else — the salt and pepper and curls in no way resembling the (mostly) straight blonde sprigs I had last year. And no, my hairdresser wasn’t hiding my gray all this time! (My sister can’t get over the color when we FaceTime. Nobody in our family ever had this color, she says.)
This morning I pulled the necklace out again, fingering the silver jewels for the story each one tells. And I put it on. And took a selfie. Because that’s what you do when you are 63 years old and can’t visit with your mother on your birthday but want to show her how much you’ve changed. (She’s 92 and COVID confined at home, at least away from me right now.)
Anyway, looking at this new woman I saw something I hadn’t seen in so many months — something I thought cancer had taken from me forever.
Light. Sparkle. Twinkle. Blue. And yet, there it is. I hardly recognized myself.
(Well, today, I actually went into a store to pick up my lunch and noticed the mother of one of my son’s high school friends. Masked (she was as well) I spoke to her, but I don’t think she recognized me either!)
Tonight I (tried) to hold Audie, her squirrelly self no longer satisfied to sit in my arms. And it was grand. We are both so big now.
Tomorrow, very early, I’ll be back in the chemo chair for what will begin, once and for ALL, the countdown til I’m finally done — mid-November. Five. Four. Three. Two. One. And done.
I’ll be wearing the necklace again, armed, and charmed, to begin what promises to be my next good year.
Chemo Camp — home at last
Well, my mother wasn’t able to drive the station wagon to pick me up, but there was a moment when an Explorer the same color as my father had did pause for a few seconds today when my friend since 8th grade Anne Boone and I were sharing lunch at Snoopy’s. Hot dogs and fries— we didn’t share the fries but had our own… both of us having earned it in all these weeks of praying and worrying and trusting. Though I felt for sure that Daddy was sharing the dog with me.
Today was the first of a series of small lasts, but this actually was a big one. The LAST CHEMO. I still have treatment to go and have much to say but no energy to say it, just now, so I’ll just post this picture. Thank you to God and to all of of those who went before me to make sure, through research, that I made it to THIS DAY. And thank you to all who have been part of my captivity, cheering me on and sending cards and gifts and praying and making meals and all the things that we all know how to do when someone is in need. All will be well, and soon.
More to come, I hope tomorrow.
Today was the first of a series of small lasts, but this actually was a big one. The LAST CHEMO. I still have treatment to go and have much to say but no energy to say it, just now, so I’ll just post this picture.
Campfires Burning, Part I
Anyone who knows me well at all has heard my camp story. It’s legend in my family, and as we head into our annual beach week, it’s bound to come up. How my parents sent me to a two-week stint at an Episcopal Church camp on the Pamlico River where my sister had gone and loved it. And how I didn’t stay. We sit around the kitchen table and laugh about how the counselors all tried to entertain me with sailing lessons and camp fires and songs and whatnot, but I was having nothing of it. All I wanted was to go home and sit at the feet of my mother.
Since it’s my story to tell, I’ll tell what I remember. And it’s a lot. I was excited about going, spending what felt like weeks packing my steamer trunk with all I needed for that whole two weeks — short sets and new Keds and books and my Bible. Towels and clean white underwear and white socks. Crisp white notepaper and stamps for writing home. Some cash money for something called Canteen. Sheets and a blanket that smelled just like my mother’s linen closet.
When the day came, I was ready, and my mother drove me, with a friend, I think, the two or so hours to the river. The counselors took me to my assigned cabin, and I dragged my trunk up the steps and into a room filled with bunks. First issue: I had the top bunk. Second issue: No private bathroom stalls, but a room filled with showers with flimsy curtains and girls everywhere. It was almost as if I was late getting there. Then we all donned our bathing suits and headed to the river for the swim test. I think I passed, because they let me in the murky water the next day.
I tried not to cry that first night, up in the air as I was with the crickets hiding in the rafters, but it was hard. I was quiet, at least I hoped. The next day, we got to the work of riverside camp life — swimming and learning to sail a Sunfish, meeting each other, taking a group picture by the chapel. I have it somewhere. I felt like I met everybody in camp that day, boys and girls, even enough to pick out which boys I thought were cute! At the time, they say, I had the memory of an elephant, and I recall some of them still. (Yes later, one of my three-day crushes joined my church. I remembered him, but he did NOT remember me. Big surprise!)
It seemed pretty fun, but I was wary, having never spent time away from home except at my grandparents house. Back then, I’d stand in front of my mother’s wedding portrait and wail. But I was about to go into the fourth grade, and I was a big girl.
But at supper after my first full day of camp, they served me milk.
I have hated milk since I was a baby, and my mother used to add chocolate or sugar and vanilla just to get me to drink a whole glass at supper. But I gagged at the thought of drinking a carton of plain milk.
Chocolate please? None here, they said.
What about water?
Nope. Milk it is or nothing.
So I began to cry. And what these kind people had no idea about was that when I started, there was just no way to stop it, as the Broadway song goes. So I cried and cried. And cried some more.
The next day, the camp assigned me my own counselor, a cute young college kid who took me sailing and tried to talk me out of my misery. (Many years later, I would sit in front of his sister at church. All Eastern NC roads lead to other Eastern NC roads, but I digress.)
But even on a bright day with the wind in my face, there was nothing he could do. By afternoon, they let me call my mother, just to speak, but I pleaded for her, screaming, to come and get me.
On the third day she finally relented, and I waited on the steps of my cabin, my trunk packed, until the station wagon pulled up, my sister riding shotgun.
And this is where the legend really begins.
We walked around camp, and I showed her everything I’d done in the past three days. I held on to her, afraid she would sneak away from me, until I heard the words: Ok, go in the cabin and get your trunk.
Joy! Relief! I was going home! Forged by this news and super human strength, I dragged the trunk out onto the sandy soil, only to see my mother’s station wagon driving out of the camp gates in the flurry of dust. I ran behind her, sobbing, stop! STOP!!!! And just before she reached the arched entryway, her brake lights flickered.
I can’t imagine what went through her mind as she set her foot on the brakes, or the conversation in the car, or when she saw me run into the cabin. Or in my sister’s, as she witnessed the three-point turnaround to flee — though I would learn later that she begged to take my place. (Here with me a few days ago, she still can’t believe our mother made the decision to leave me.)
I don’t want to cast my mother as cruel here. She is not, and she was not then. I think she was trying to break me of my dependence on her, trying to make me stronger, as she had tried so many times in my short, almost 10-year-old life.
She drove me home that day saying I’d be grounded for the full two weeks I would have spent at camp, and I was ecstatic! I never returned to camp until I took my own second grader to a camp all the way across the state, and I cried the entire way home.
I’ve thought about my camp story a lot in the past few weeks, as I have begun a new kind of camp, one where there is no going home, no matter how much I wish my mother could rescue me. This time, she leaves me standing in the middle of that swirling cloud of dust and sand and her taillights never flicker.
And I’m the one who turns around and heads into the cabin and opens the trunk to see what she has hidden there for me.
Just after Mother’s Day I was diagnosed with breast cancer. In the weeks since, I’ve heard it called a journey, but it feels more like a kidnapping, so I’ll stick with that as I move through it. A journey to me is something you choose, like a pilgrimage or a river cruise and a trip to the Grand Canyon, something vast and inspiring, and one you hope will change you. Not that this kidnapping won’t change me — it already has — and though it’s come with lots of colorful brochures, it still feels a bit like I’m stuck on the top bunk in a place I really, really don’t want to be.
But in these weeks, I’ve found that my cabin is full of amazing women who didn’t want to be there, either. But they navigated the murky waters from that top bunk where newbies like me land, to the door where they have welcomed me, heavy-laden trunk and all.
So Chemo Camp has begun, and for the next few months I’m stuck here as the Red Devil, as they all it, seeps into my core and does its work, trying to kill what’s in me without actually killing me. So far, my days have been spent meeting some beautiful faces — almost all of them women — in my church, in my neighborhood, on my care team, in the hospital — and this time, my camp days seem almost bearable. I’ll tell you about them in later posts, as I this kidnapping drama continues.
I realize I’m mixing my metaphors here. Camp and kidnapping are not at all the same thing — for most people. But I’m finding out lately that I am not most people, at least in the kind of cancer I have (two kinds — Triple Negative and invasive ductal, in the same breast. UPDATE: 3!) Typical me, that.
But I promise not to be unique in the way I navigate it. When I first began sharing with friends, I wrote that there was no way through it except through it. A few weeks later, a friend sent me a book of daily meditations, and there it was in Psalm 21: “‘Lift up your eyes it the hills’ and go forward. There is no other way.”
I won’t be writing only about my cancer on this new blog. That’s not fun! But I will be sharing the gifts that come an almost daily basis. One friend, diagnosed last year and not yet 40 — just as she was about to give birth to her fourth child — wrote to me that she wished people would treat each other all the time like they do when they hear the word cancer. (She is cancer free after a year, with a beautiful healthy year-old baby boy!)
She is right. It’s been like having a birthday, almost every day for the past two months. Cards come, presents, flowers from gardens, food and visits. I couldn’t have told you the last time a friend stopped by for a real visit, until this happened to me. It’s been wonderful to feel so loved, and it’s humbling. To know that so many are thinking of me and praying for my healing is beyond measure. And I’m learning how to respond when I hear — and I will — that someone else around me has been kidnapped as well.
So I thank my mother, both for taking me home that day, but instilling in me that some things you just have to get through. You have the tools, and you will help others as you use them. She has done a lot of that in her life, and knowing that her youngest child has to go through this might be the hardest for her yet.
But I am not alone. I have my family, my faith and my cabin mates. And I have my trunk. And I know my mother packed it well.
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ps: Years after Camp I was on a book tour for Nags Headers, signing books in Elizabeth City, NC, when a woman asked me to sign a book for a child whose last name was Spence. “I knew a Penny Spence from here years ago at camp,” I said. From way down the line I heard a voice: “I’m Penny Spence.” She didn’t remember me, but I did her. I have a picture of her by the door of our cabin.
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we'll always have paris (hold on, it's a long one)
my high school french teacher was an eager young woman who ran around the room pointing at things, shouting 'kes kur say?'
we played along, shouting back at her in our best eastern north carolina accents that i'm sure a frenchman would have found appalling.
when she moved on and the new teacher came — a family friend i'd known all my life — he spoke 'real french,' the guttural kind, introduced us to Paris Match and actually expected us to read it, and taught us how to sing carols in french. my last year, i opted out, having enough credits to get me to college, not wanting to disappoint him with my poor pronunciation. (i think i disappointed him more for not taking his class, and that year i would not land a role in the senior play, which he directed. i was not even picked to be a stage hand.)
in college, i took french again, could do a pretty decent translation, though in my third year, when i showed up to class and couldn't understand a word of what was spoken, i opted for calculus. (the outcome is an entirely different story that involved begging during the final exam...) back in those days, france was this place so far away from my life that i never imagined going there. who would want to visit a place where you couldn't speak the language?
wouldn't you know though, that 25 years ago, my husband found himself working for a French company. and he would visit a dozen times —even spent our 15th wedding anniversary in Paris without me— but never once asked me to tag along. he spoke a little spanish but no french, and you would think he would have liked a helpmate who still knew how to conjugate a couple of verbs. but no. weary, he'd drag himself in from the flight back saying: you'd hate Paris. the people smell. it's just 'so French.'
but by then i had stretched myself beyond the boundaries of my high school life enough to know i would like to at least make that determination myself.
i eventually did visit Paris, traveling with him on a couple of trips, staying in a small hotel just off the
with a dynamic view of the arch d'triomphe. i found out that i did love paris, smelly citizens et al, and those two trips are among my favorite memories. i promised myself that i'd return to the city of lights one day, trying to figure just how to afford it.
one day came a few weeks ago, when i left my husband to tend to the dog and boarded plane for a a week in my favorite city, this time with the girls.
we rented an apartment in the 9th arrondissement — Anne Boone, my best friend since 8th grade and two of her friends, who became mine in short order. and for a week, we lived like i imagine a lot of parisians do — beds low to the floor, small furniture, baguettes, cheese and jam for breakfast, and walking. lots of walking.
we timed our trip around a special event — the premier of an Agnes De Mille ballet produced by the
, the oldest ballet company in the world. Anne Boone's friend Andy is the executive director of
, and the POB would be staging de Mille's
, a ballet about Lizzy Borden, of all people. we were set to attend on opening night at the
, the home of the POB. (Agnes' brilliance of course gave us Oklahoma!, Paint Your Wagon, Carousel and many others in iconic American theatre.)
a week before the trip, i picked up a novel i'd read about: three sisters who danced with the POB in the late 19th century. i knew nothing about the book, but thought it would serve as a worthy companion on the flight. once settled, i pulled it out of my carry-on, and at the same time Anne Boone revealed her book —
— the exact one i had chosen. as great friends, this happens to us from time to time.
the book would prove the perfect backdrop for our experience, as it is the fictionalized story of three real sisters who danced in the late 19th century with the POB. they lived in the very area where we stayed, and so as we walked the streets of paris, i began to recognize places mentioned and could picture them there.
my favorite museum in the world (so far) is the
. home of the great impressionists, you will find degas, monet, manet, renoir, cezanne and more. degas is famous for among many things, his depiction of the reality of parisian ballerinas at work. he used to hang out at the Opera Garnier and sketch the girls dancing there, trying to capture their pain and fatigue. the model for the
La Petite Danseuse de Quatorze An
is Marie, one of the sisters in the novel.
oh, how i love a good book, and this is great one, one that took me inside the POB, behind the scenes in a way i could not have imagined had i not read it. when Andy took us to the dress rehearsal for the de Mille ballet, we entered from the back door of the opera house and i could see where Marie might have entered herself. i saw the fatigue on the ballerina's faces — just as Degas did — though their beauty on stage hides it well.
chagall ceiling
on opening night, i wrapped myself in a fringed silk shawl that had been my great-grandmother's and sat below a painting of Chagall. as the ballet played itself out before me, i imagined the thousands of people who had sat in my seat (or at least the area of my seat) in its 150-year history. the stories that had been told there. the magic that people had experienced there. (i didn't even mention that this is the setting of the Phantom of the Opera, and the box he is said to inhabit is high above the stage, to the left.)
the day before the ballet, we spent an afternoon with a guide at the Musee d'orsay, and for the second time in my life i looked at the face of la petite danseuse. on this visit, she was real to me, and i found myself wanting to sit with her for awhile, and take her in, but the crowds would not allow it.
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in our week in paris, we found ourselves trying to speak more french. to be understood, and the challenge was refreshing. we found ourselves reading signs in the metro, saying je voudrais as we asked for our meals, saying much more than merci when someone gave us what we asked.
i think back almost 40 years ago to that first 'kes kur say?' (
qu'est-ce que c'est?)
what is it? what was it about this place i never imagined visiting but now can't imagine not? hope to go again before too long, just to experience it again.
qu'est-ce que c'est?
the best answer is this:
allez la-bas et vous comprendrez
ps: i took a few pics (400 or so) and here are a few.
stumbling in on a ballet practice
city of lights
artists Place du Tertre
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a cure for dreams
lydia and i have been getting into mischief since we made onion soup from the wild onions in her front yard when we were five and promptly forgot about it. it was spring, and the sun beat down on the bucket of onions, water and sand until it was ripely rotten. the smell lasted for days.
we sent love letters (she did, i was just her accomplice) to the boys next door, bathing our mouths in her mother's lipstick, planting kisses all over the envelopes, then we ran through the bushes to put them in the box.
we did something else that same year that i can't confess, even now, because my mother reads this blog and would not approve.
we'd slip into the darkened Dixie Theatre with too much popcorn and drink in our hands and get the giggles. once we (she, really) spilled half her drink down someone's back in the row in front of us.
one day when we walked home from town, Miss Hooker, an elderly woman who took care of her mother, ran out of her house toward us and shouted: help me! mother is dead!
i will not say that we rushed into the house, but we did go in, rubbing the old woman's legs until she moaned and we knew that she was indeed NOT dead. i remember calling daddy that day, asking if we had done the right thing.
'as far as i can tell you did,' he said. years later, when miss hooker visited my daddy's office, she looked fondly into my eyes.
things like this always happened to lydia and me. i have used some of it for fodder in my fiction, and i will tell you that each episode makes for a good story.
as lydia and i grew older, we built huts out of wheat straw gathered from the field next to her house. we slipped on our rain boots and crept into the dark woods that by night were inhabited by millions of grackles and starlings swirling above our heads. by day we stomped through knee-high bird droppings, just because we wanted to see for ourselves what the whole bird story was all about. writing about it in fiction, i made it night, though it was pretty scary to go there by day.
when we were in junior high school, we got into decoupage and antiquing furniture in her playhouse, not knowing that we were ahead of our time. we sneaked scuppernong wine her grandfather made from the attic. we set up a beauty parlor on her side porch and i actually let her give me a perm, promising i wouldn't take the curlers out for 24 hours. hours!
on to high school and boys and once, when we stood talking in her back yard as a storm loomed miles away, we watched (and felt and heard) as a beam of lightning shot down and struck the chimney of her house, sending bricks flying toward us. years later when we were together and a thunderstorm approached, i don't know who headed for the car first. we have not liked to be together in storms since.
in college, lydia lived right across the hall from me our first year, down the hall the second, and she was like my sister. applauding me when i did well, putting me in my place when i disappointed her.
when daddy died, almost the first person i heard from was lydia. 'i'm coming,' she said, 'and i'm staying, even if i have to put up a straw hut in the back yard.' and i knew she would do just that.
at the visitation, she came through the back door, telling the folks in the kitchen that she had never used the front door and would not start at that moment. she worked through the room, visiting with people she had known her whole life, and when all the visitors left, she took over the kitchen, pulling out homemade sweet potato ham biscuits (made just that morning), passing them out to all the grands, saying something under her breath like: lydia is gonna take care of things.
the next day, after we buried daddy's ashes, lydia called my cell. 'let's take a ride,' she said, and i said of course, sure. she picked me up, and we drove around the old hood, trying to name who lived where, though neither of us has lived there for more than 35 years.
put two country girls together who have not been in the country for awhile, and they will surely take a ride, out, toward the fields, the open air. i knew where we were headed, a few miles out of town to the country club where our daddies had played golf for so many years. this trip was for lydia, i thought, to see a place her father had helped build.
as we drove into the club, i saw some men fishing on the edge of the pond and there it was in my head, the picture of the huge bass i'd caught with a cane pole, lydia next to me, so heavy that fish was that the two of us had to drag it across the ground up toward the woods. we had no net. we were maybe 13.
Lydia drove around the clubhouse, noted the wood fence post her father's business was known for years ago, still standing guard against the putting green. on we went, down the hill toward the tennis courts where she had tossed her first serve — this was still her trip, mind you... i never played tennis — toward the club house.
lydia plays golf, is married to a pro, so again we were doing this for her. her mother died just last year, her father a few years before, but they lived away from our town for years. and while the week for me had been catching up with folks i'd known much of my life, lydia didn't have that chance when her parents died. i was more than happy to share our grieving.
humm... she said. i'm thinking maybe i'd like an ice cold beer.
so we sauntered into the pro shop and she told me to put my money away. it was quiet, only a golfer or two on #9 next to the shop, another on #10 teeing off with his son. she asked the pro for two cold ones, and i asked his name. suddenly, i felt a tightness near my eyes and throat and said this: my father was dr. byrum.
'was?' he asked. 'i had no idea.' and then he told me that daddy always came into the shop, golf shoes in hand, and sat right in that chair there — and he pointed to it — to change his shoes. same thing every time. 'i knew he was sick,' he said. 'hadn't seen him in awhile.'
then we talked about how lydia's daddy used to bring her through a back gate on weekend afternoons when the course was under construction, how daddy use to bring me out, too, so we could watch it all being built. the pro showed us a aerial photo of the course being built, then talked about the hundreds of oaks felled during hurricane irene almost two years ago. then this:
'why don't you girls take a cart and go for a ride.'
back outside, lydia hopped right in the driver's side and i took my place beside her.
we wove down the path toward the front nine and drove down that first fairway. and then i realized it. yes, this was her trip, but it was mine, too, for when daddy was not in the office or hospital or home, he was here, walking up the #3 par 3, across the little bridge and over the small pond to the green. i had done that very thing with him myself as a girl.
daddy didn't have much time off, but if he couldn't get to Nags Head to look out over the ocean to clear his head, he was here, swinging the ball, knocking it in, walking. thinking.
we looked out over the course and sipped our beer and made a toast to our fathers, cutting across one fairway after another, until we were back in place, both of us healed, a bit, from our short time with our daddies again.
'lydia knows just the cure,' she said as we drove down the back roads toward home.
i don't see lydia often, and i miss her. miss the mischief, the giggles in the night over a spilled coca-cola or a secret wish shared only with each other.
years have put life and distance between us. but on this day, we were at it again, our lives whole for a few minutes, despite all we have lost.
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